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Post by Steve Gardner on May 10, 2008 17:26:17 GMT
I really don't know what to say.
I have limited mobilty myself as the result of widespread arthritis, so I do have some sense of the frustration you must be feeling. I assume this happened relatively recently - last 6 moths or so - in which case you're probably still re-running the incident over and over again in your head. If it's any consolation, I can tell you that that - together with a sense of bitterness and the feeling that life just ain't fair - are common and that, if you're like me, you'll soon become quite philosophical about things.
Hang in there mate and don't accept the limitations others might want to put on you.
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Post by adam on May 10, 2008 17:32:15 GMT
arthritis sufferers untied!
yeah, i got the arthritis too, very hard for a 24 year old to come to terms with. so far its just my knees, but its startin in my shoulders too, next will be my wrists, then elbows. the accident was in september and i relive it every day without fail
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Post by Steve Gardner on May 10, 2008 17:35:48 GMT
Mate, we have so much to talk about.
I had a car accident when I was 24 - 15 years ago now - and that's how my condition started.
I have to shoot for a while but I'll be around later if you want to talk.
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Post by adam on May 10, 2008 20:03:02 GMT
are we the same person?
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Post by Steve Gardner on May 10, 2008 20:31:01 GMT
Lol.
I saw an episode of Family Guy recently where Stewie saw his doppelgänger - albeit an adult version - on TV. He travelled to San Fransico to track this guy down only to find it was himself in the future.
It sure looks as though we have some common experiences, although mine is more widespread but much less intense than yours.
But, whilst the physical nature of our conditions is different, the phychological responses will be similar. And from that perspective I can offer you hope. The dissappointment and frustration is short-lived. You will adapt and become philosophical about things. What you lose in mobility, you'll gain elsewhere - much in the same way a blind person tends to develop a keen sense of smell, for example.
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Post by adam on May 10, 2008 20:43:48 GMT
i'll be fine until through some kind of toturous miracle it affects more, uh, delicate, uh, regions held dear by a man... oh my yoda, can you image...
the whole thing happened at a really bad time in my life. i had a 9 month period where everythin that could happen, did infact happen. i've had depression in various forms since i was 14, i didnt finish school for completely unrelated reason (i very rarely turned up on one one occassion at 15 when i did, my teacher called me a prick and i punched him in the face, knockin him out cold and breakin his nose). everythin seemed to calm down until i was 18 when i tried to o.d on cocaine. obviously that didnt work, went to rehab, got out, met my ex. 4 years late, my parents split up, i lost a job and was screwed out of another by my former employer, my ex moved out, i had my accident, my ex broke up with me, i got back into the buyin cocaine business but couldnt bring myself to go through with it then met my current ladyfriend.
honestly, i dont know how i'm still here
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Post by Steve Gardner on May 10, 2008 21:05:08 GMT
That's a large chunk of your life spent in difficult circumstances - it's easy to understand why you might be pessimistic about the future.
But sometimes, life can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you convince yourself you've got a whole load of shit coming your way, then inevitably a whole load of shit will come your way. The reverse can also be true, however. If you can somehow find a way to be positive about the future, your perspective changes; the way you deal with things changes; and the way you interact with people changes. Suddenly, you get a break, reinforcing your positive frame of mind and it snowballs from there.
Success breeds success. I'm sure you've heard that saying. it's a bit cliche, I know, but it's true.
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Post by adam on May 10, 2008 21:14:28 GMT
i'm just livin each day as it comes at the moment, each day for me can be a struggle. i've already had a fight with kayla (my amazin other half) today because i was actin like a prick, and now i'm drinkin. my problem is that i also smoke weed. i smoke it to relax and destress, but recently it also helps alot of the pain in my knee. people alwys judge me for it before they hear my reasonin. i smoke one blunt a night when i'm workin, if its the weekend or a school holiday i have a couple more. yeah i get high and i'm a completely different person when i am, i'm much happier and i can deal with things better. drinkin however goes one of two ways, it either enhances my good mood or it sinks me down to the point of tears and i never know which way its gonna go until i'm there. so far i'm alright, not havin too bad a time. the day started shit, got some bad news which caused me to lash out and the fight started. gotta do some research on leukemia, dont let me forget
i know, it looks like i'm reelin off a loud of stuff to get sympathy, but i'm really not, i'm just tellin it how it is, i dont like gettin sympathy from people as i have never felt i deserved it. over the last 4 months i've been tryin harder than you can imagine to get myself out of this and i couldnt have done it without kayla and justin, i literally owe them both my life
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Post by Steve Gardner on May 10, 2008 21:26:36 GMT
...i couldnt have done it without kayla and justin, i literally owe them both my life Delighted to read this bit. It's good to know you've got people around you like this. All I can say is, keep plugging away. Recognising the challenge is a big part of dealing with it. Beyond the pain associated with inflamed joints, I have no exprience to draw on that could possibly help. It goes without saying, though, that if you wanna just get stuff off of your chest, I'm more than happy to accomodate. If you want to do it privately, IM me (I'm on AOL as coughymachine) or register here and use the Java chat room from the menu above. That wasn't a shameless plug, by the way, just an extended hand. |
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Post by adam on May 10, 2008 21:39:41 GMT
i've registered, although i fear this is the only board i'm gonna be present in, lol
i'm not ashamed of anythin i've done, i happily answer questions about it all. i find it helps to talk
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Post by Steve Gardner on May 10, 2008 21:49:03 GMT
A warm welcome to you.
It doesn't matter if you contibute in this board or even only in the CBox - it's good to have you around.
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Post by adam on May 10, 2008 21:55:42 GMT
the problem was that i have dodgy eyesight and cant very rarely read the security codes
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Post by Steve Gardner on May 11, 2008 16:15:23 GMT
After a goal-fest of a final day (an incredible 32 goals in 9 games!), we have the winners and losers. Since this thread started life as a look at which teams will be relegated, we'll concentrate at the arse-end of the table. And I'm gutted for Reading. They're down, together with Birmingham and, of course, Derby - who's spot in the Premiership should surely have gone to a more deserving side. The results that affected the bottom were: Birmingham 4-1 Blackburn
Derby 0-4 Reading
Portsmouth 0-1 Fulham The foot of the table looks like this:
Team
Bolton
Fulham
Reading
Birmingham
Derby
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37
37
37
37
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Goal Diff
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-22
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-69
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36
36
35
11
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So, it's well done to Fulham - for whom Hodgson has, in my view, done a marvellous job - and commiserations to Reading and Birmingham (not Derby, who were just shit). And, although I'm sure they'll be a thread dedicated to the top half, I should congratulate Man Utd on yet another Premiership title. |
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Post by adam on May 12, 2008 16:03:58 GMT
all turned out pretty much as i planned expected
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